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Nozibele Qamngana
Aug 16, 20194 min read
#IAmStillMe: My HIV story
My name is Nozibele Qamngana Mayaba. I am living positively with HIV. I found out about my status August of 2013. I was 22 years old. It...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Jun 6, 20216 min read
Why are we so comfortable in playing small?
Almost a year ago, we lost one of our cars. My husband woke up very early to go and cycle. I was still fast asleep when I heard him call...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Apr 28, 20212 min read
Condom Breaks: What do I do next? Let's talk about PEP.
Condoms can sometimes rip or tear. Here are some common mistakes that could lead to microtears: Using an expired condom Putting a condom...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Apr 28, 20213 min read
HIV and Breastfeeding: Is it safe?
HIV is a virus that attacks the body’s immune system and is spread through certain body fluids, including breast milk. Mother-to-child...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Feb 5, 20216 min read
HIV and Child Minders. My nanny didn’t disclose her positive HIV status. Should I be worried?
I have 3 friends that have come forward to ask advice about their respective nannies. Friend 1: She gave birth to a baby boy. After...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Jan 10, 20218 min read
"They don't want to take their medication. What do I do?" Lets talk about pill fatigue!
A few days go, on social media, I shared a post about Pill Fatigue. On most parts, I thought I was rumbling, and not realizing that it’ll...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Jul 27, 20202 min read
"I'm HIV positive. And I'm not okay". A letter to a friend.
Daily, I receive tons of messages from friends from around the world. Friends who are seeking help. I wish I had the manpower and the...
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Nozibele Qamngana
May 15, 20205 min read
HIV and Sex. It doesn’t need to be boring.
When my and I did our #MayabaLoveJourney, we briefly started talking about sex. I remember Skhu saying that one of the things we fear...
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Nozibele Qamngana
May 1, 20206 min read
“Celebrating International Worker’s Day: Can my employer force me to have an HIV test?”
Today, we are celebrating International Worker’s day. We commemorate and bring into light worker’s rights. In the spirit of doing so, I...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Apr 23, 20205 min read
“When is the right time to disclose my HIV status to my partner?”
“Nozi, I just met this guy. I really like him. But I’m scared. When is the right time to tell him about my status?”. I receive several...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Apr 13, 20204 min read
"There's no fear in love"
A few months ago, we were on our delayed honeymoon in Thailand. While having dinner, we met a couple that were in a family vacation with...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Mar 30, 20208 min read
#IAmStillMe by Nozibele Qamngana Mayaba: Introductory chapter
I’m sure this won’t take long. I have a meeting in 20 minutes with my boss, Robert, to go over a pricing project. I’m happy with my new...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Mar 2, 20205 min read
How Ma accidentally found my ARVs : What do you when you find someone's ARV pills.
Today, we’re addressing another question I’ve been asked. I’ll specifically refer to two stories. The first relates to someone that...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Feb 17, 20206 min read
My abortion story: How I carelessly fell pregnant 9 months after my HIV positive diagnosis
As I have mentioned before, I was diagnosed HIV positive August of 2013. It was a random test at work, during a wellness day event, that...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Feb 3, 20204 min read
I didn’t tell my insurer I was HIV positive
Lately, I’ve been having mini attacks whenever I read about an Insurer that refuses to pay out after someone has died. In 2018, one...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Jan 20, 20204 min read
“I was intentionally infected with HIV. What does the law say?”
Before we proceed with today’s topic, kindly note that all that I share does not constitute as legal advice. I’m not a lawyer or a legal...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Jan 13, 20205 min read
Why Ma stopped asking me about having kids: Family planning and HIV
As this is the first post of the year, let me take this opportunity to send best wishes for 2020. May God fulfill all your heart’s...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Dec 12, 20196 min read
2019 reflections
Patience is not simply the ability to wait - it's how we behave while we're waiting. - Joyce Meyer It was last year in July when...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Nov 30, 20194 min read
Celebrating World Aids Day
“It is bad enough that people are dying of AIDS, but no one should die of ignorance.” - Elizabeth Taylor I was diagnosed HIV positive...
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Nozibele Qamngana
Nov 23, 20193 min read
My experiences travelling overseas and being HIV positive
My experiences travelling overseas and being HIV positive “I’ve been postponing going on a baecation to Mauritius because I didn’t want...
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